The Ins and Outs of Heartbreak

Personally, I have never gone through a relationship break before but I have been a witness to the aftermath of one. I always see the emotional toll that it has on girls when they go through a break up.  I’ve seen the heart break, the tears, and the anger.
I was curious as to what entails when girls go through a break up and how they recover from the heart break. So, who better to ask than my own girlfriends? Kim, Chrissy, and Eva wanted to share their stories to help girls to handle their break up. All have been in serious relationships and have gone through heart break.

Kim dated her ex boyfriend on and off for three years in high school and college. Through out their relationship they had a tremendous trust issues that broke their bond apart. Ultimately, she broke up with him because she could not handle his infidelity. When I asked her about how she handled the break up when it was fresh she said "Hurt for a the first couple of days. I was emotional and I drank my feelings for a while." She emphasized that the best way she got over him was to completely cut him off. "No contact helped a lot. I was fed up and wanted nothing to do with him." She said the one thing she learned was never put up with cheating. 

Chrissy had been with her ex boyfriend for five years on and off. Lying, cheating, and getting another girl pregnant were the reasons that Chrissy and Ben's relationship didn't last. She said the worse part of their break up was he wanted her to stay with him regardless that he got another girl pregnant. She refused and ended their relationship. "I was so hurt and angry. I wanted revenge bad." I asked her how she was able to move on she said "I started keep busy and work more hours." She said that she learned that love does not hurt. 

Eva and James were together for sixteen months when their relationship ended. He broke her heart because he wanted to get his life together and couldn't place her as a priority in it. I asked her how she left when he said that she said "It didn't seem real. I didn't take it seriously until a week later when I realized it was really over." She said the one things she learned from their relationship was "you can't make yourself number one for someone who doesn't want make you number one." She admits that she is not over him. 

I asked the girls if they could give advice for other girls who are going through issues in their relationships. Eva said "If something does not feel right then it's not right." Chrissy said " Put yourself first and never let a man put you down."And Kim said "Never put up with cheating."